Look , youreallyshouldn’t hit on women in the metro . It ’s a cylindrical , magnified , fast - moving faux - pas ; where even the slightest wrong move could make her feel uncomfortable and unsafe . So , if you feel like it ’s a bad theme , do n’t do n’t do it .
However , if you ’re facing a do - or - expire , " I got ta see about a little girl " spot , then here ’s what you should do to inflict theleastpossible amount of creepiness into the air .
We enlisted legendary body language and communicating expert , Dr. Lillian Glass(no intercourse ) to guide us and ensure you do n’t ruin a courteous cleaning woman ’s dayspring commute and your subway pickup does n’t get … derailed .
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For the love of God, don’t be a creepy idiot
Unlike the traditional mise en scene of a legal community or club , a train offer little chance for a woman to escape from a rogue amatory assaulter . That aggressor becomesyouif you mess up and act like the kind of cat you see on the front page of Gothamist .
You definitely do not want to make her uncomfortable or clumsy with intensely sexual or suggestive statement – actually , you should n’t do that to any womananywhere .
So , act in a tranquil and collected agency by being a normal person and saying something elementary and harmless along the railway line of “ I like your necklace ” or “ You prompt me of [ beautiful celebrity ] from a [ really good motion picture ] . ”
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If she shrug you off or gain a disgusted face that suggest you remind her of a walk , tattle piece of human garbage , call it off and heed your own patronage . Pro tip : being ignored is a gravid way to indicate that you ’ve overstepped your bounds . If they ’re not into it , just put your headphones back in and forget anything ever hap .
Be confident, but not like, weirdly overconfident
Dr. Glass suggests that positive physical structure language is the headstone . “ shoulder back , head up up , and do n’t hunch forward over . People are attracted to confidence . ” It ’s average secret plan to smile at someone , just make trusted they ’re cool with your betterment . If your face makes them purge , then you ’re belike doing it wrong .
hoi polloi are shy and apt to believe that a steal glance or couple of bedroom middle is intended for them … sodon’t be a weirdo and stare at a person until they become observably fidgety . That ’s the kind of behavior for fashion plate who iron their jeans . If they do n’t smile back and seem weirded out , that’sanothersolid indicator that you should back off .
Be beyond respectful of personal space
“ Do n’t contact them , because they might not be aware you ’re around , ” say Dr. Glass . " Be respectful of their space and time . " Touching a soul you do n’t know on the underpass is atrulyuncool thing to do and it ’ll hopefully earn you a well - deserve groin boot .
Glass suggests finding common terra firma to babble out about . Luckily , coarse land on the underground is gentle .
There ’s plenty to talk about on the string , but ensure you are n’t disturbing them . It sucks to be interrupt during the good part of a song or a really suspenseful book . So , if you ’re consider ruining the last 10 pages ofOne Hundred Years of Solitudeto lecture about train stuff … end the debate by just keeping to yourself .
However , if you indite a thousand - word paper on Gabriel García Márquez , maybe conceive about lease your shot .
Muster up some good conversation
The vulgar theme in Dr. Glass ’ advice is line up common ground with the person you ’re set about . So , if you ’re on a train that ’s moving slower than that one long - expect , underwhelming Guns N ' Roses album covered in molasses , you do n’t want to open up with something like : “ Man , I love how this railroad train move . ” incur something true and go with it … like , “ Man , this train feel like how Axl Rose looks . "
Then you may launch into a conversation about who ’s going where and then you may let the fresh , natural conversational vibes take over .
Give them your number and leave it in their hands
“ Always have a card with you , ” says Dr. Glass . “ In this daylight and age , you have to move quickly [ and ] you always desire to have something ready for them . ” Again , do n’t ram it , do n’t jam it into their hands , just retain some chill and pass your circuit board with a grinning . Take it as a major lead that they ’re not into it if they take your card and snap it to rag . Ouch .
A card guarantees they ’ll have your name and number in their hand . It ’s a niggling cheesy and quondam school day , but hey – so are you . If all go according to plan , and you ’ve exchange numbers , you could then move your relationship off - cart track and protrude a blossom biz of sexy cat and shiner in the quilt of your own city .
Then , you ’ll have a multitude of newfangled problems and puzzles to work . Man , is n’t dating the safe ?
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