I wish I had sleep together Jake before I endure the psychic trauma of being dumped on national tv .
It was the summertime of 2012 , and I had successfully auditioned for a spot on a Canadian date show . If I ’d meet Jake beforehand , perhaps I would n’t have unknowingly gifted my particular date fake flowers . And perchance I would n’t have end up on a previous hack ride home , marvel whether the cast director had chosen me strictly for comic relief .
Jake and I are trajectory attendant who fit four years after the aforementioned embarrassment . We were recently portion to the same flight of steps to Orlando . Our friendship was instantaneous – it ’s difficult not to have it away an excitable Filipino with a childlike fun . Just a few second into our first conversation , Jake and I learned we ’d both studied at Second City , a funniness night club in Toronto . Then and there , it was decide we would start a clowning span ( check ) , produce a web serial publication ( in the works ) , and move to New York City ( maybe next year ? ) . But first , we were get to watch a independent - phase show at Second City .
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To be true , part of me inquire if he call up I was festal , too . I signify , I get it – it ’s a common bias of virile flight attendants . I was also curious whether he had the purpose of our Second City picnic to be a " date " appointment . It was n’t atroublingthought , per se , but it was all put to ease when he invited a precious girl to tail along with us .
Bringing hot women on our man-dates is a regular thing
As it turn out , bringing fantastic women on our hangouts is just a fooling affair Jake does . He is easily the best wingman I ’ve ever had , specially considering many of my straight male Quaker get their kicks by cockblocking me – the fecund and inauspicious accounts of which will have to be saved for another clip .
Perhaps it ’s because there are no competitive motif or jealousy , but Jake always has my good interests in mind as he offer assistance in my turbulent hobby of the polar sex .
A gay best friend is the ultimate wingman
Jake is the helpline I dial when I ’m madly barricaded in a date ’s bathroom . He ’s the one I model my favorite dungaree for when they reach the cusp of appear moderately vintage or straight - up hobo fabulous . And he ’s unquestionably the person I bring along to the store when I beak out flowers .
But my friendship with Jake has assist me with more than style and flowered system . He has also teach me how to be more romantic and sensitive to fair sex ’s needs .
He is my spy for what women require , because of the room they trust and open up to him . Take , for instance , when a girl from our airline tell him about her crunch on me .
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He called me that dark . “ What are you doing tomorrow Nox ? ” I told him I did n’t know . “ You ’re going on a date with Holly . " Jake went on to be after the night ’s events . He also explain what would pull ahead points with Holly , the qualities she was looking for , and what she was passionate about . “ A few more ready things , " he say . " She does n’t care about your car , ask to bear her hand , and keep your spirited opinions on the ‘ Free the Nipple ’ campaign to yourself . ”
fundamentally , all I had to do was show up . The intel Jake provided was essentially a compounding to her nerve .
Gay men can untangle the feminine mystique
Women can be complicated beings , and straight hands are clueless . But festal gentleman have an amazing power to bridge over the crack as intercessor .
I institute the ultimate friendly relationship with Jake . Women always talk about wanting to have a gay champion ; and honestly , I ca n’t blame them . While verifying ( and exploiting ) gay men ’s ranking wingman power , I discovered another commonality : for reasons I ca n’t commence to realize , gay men on multiple occasions have confided they feel threatened by their straight counterparts .
Being true to oneself is downright inspiring
Some have share that every time they walk into a room , they are afraid to be themselves . They sense hatred before even getting the chance to be hear . This cheer me – not only because several gay human being have been open to my friendship despite this fear ; but also that these braw man live a biography true to themselves no matter the everyday event .
The bigoted suggestions that gay mankind are somehow watery , or lesser men , could n’t be further from the accuracy . In my judgement , there is nothing audacious than being yourself , even if it means lay on the line family , admirer , and – as history has stubbornly show us – your own personal safety .
Some of these men , like Jake , are my right friends . I ’m blessed to have them at my side in the sky .
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