I took off my sandals at the threshold of the bagnio as scare set in .
Struggling to remember the YouTube videos on bagnio etiquette I ’d watched , query raced . Do I lavish first ? Do I leave my wearing apparel in the locker room ? WHY ARE THESE TOWELS SO SMALL ? ! The storage locker - room matron , patient with our language barrier , conveyed that I was to leave my jeans and T - shirt behind and take my bare ass down into the cellar to join the all - distaff watering hole .
During a 10 - day trip through Taiwan and South Korea with friends , we ’d made our way to Seoul – and it was there I ’d announced my purpose to visit a actual - life Korean bathhouse . Traditional bathing machine , orjjimjilbang , are big in today ’s Korean acculturation ; offering a place for friends and couples to socialise , drill peach and health ritual , and relax . Sure , my decision to check the station out was partially fueled by a few beer and a waffle from alocal sheep cafe– but in that import , I was determined to treat me , myself , and my easily sunburn 5'5 " shape to the skin scrubbing of a lifetime .
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I did n’t earn I was about to learn to roll in the hay my body , too .
My journey around the world ended with a trip inward
When I present my friend with my plan , they prompt me that one , I did n’t mouth a lick of Korean ( I can say " thank you " and " THAT ‘S CUTE , " which I of course yell for emphasis ) ; and two , I would be going alone on a Monday morning to a basement bathing machine in Seoul because say bathing machine was for women only – and the only other woman in our mathematical group would n’t be unite me . Still – the voltage to repay home after my first trip overseas with a defenseless story finger too good to go by up .
And so it followed that the next day I tromped two block through a rainstorm in my sandal from my ally ’s pint - sized apartment to the bathhouse in motion in rescript to strip down and hang out in my skivvy with a bunch of naked Korean grandmas .
Standards of beauty were complicated for me
" The obtuse angle of my nozzle and my mosquito bit - sized boobs very gradually became dear pieces of who I am . "
My dark brown tomentum and umber chip - colored eyes – the few trait I portion out with my Chinese grandmother – were in pure direct contrast to my blonde - haired , hazel - eyed mother . And really , none of the images of ravisher in my blood line of sight came close to representing the appearances of my phratry members … or my own reflection . To be honest , I did n’t really be intimate what I was supposed to look like .
Over the year , my body and I have shifted from a relationship of critical review and discombobulation to one of comfort . The purblind angle of my nose and my mosquito snack - sized dummy very bit by bit became beloved pieces of who I am . But stripping down in front of a bunch of stranger in a strange land was a tryout I was n’t entirely sure I was ready for .
Acceptance is all about letting go
In Korean culture , women take cracking superbia in their appearance . Their outfits , makeup , hairsbreadth , eyeliner – all everlasting . urban center streets are saturated with makeup stores promise perfect pores , brighter eyes , and preserved lightheaded skin . So I could n’t help oneself but question : what was I about to walk into ?
" To me , my dumbbell were too small , my dismal hair too obvious against my pale skin . "
As I bear sample to look through the steam - coat double doors of the bathhouse , I could n’t help but be transported back into my junior - high locker room . In those two twelvemonth , I had tried to cover up as much as possible . To me , my boobs were too minuscule , my glowering hair too obvious against my pale skin . Now , 14 years later on , I feel every bit as exposed . Yes , this time I was braceless , had learned how to put in contact , and no longer wore a breeding bra ( hardly ) ; but standing at those threshold , I feel certain I was already fail to attain a beauty standard I did n’t even know existed .
peradventure I did it for junior - high Carly , maybe I did it because I was begin to get cold just stand there , but after two minute , I opened the threshold .
The tiny, steamy room held big lessons
The room was no big than a New York Starbucks – only here , Korean nanna were unabashedly scrubbing themselves from point to toe . Some chatted with admirer , others enjoyed the solacement of simply being in the room , but no one search up . I was naked and they did not care . In the concealment of this basement bathhouse , these women who I perceive as so concerned with being looked at , being beheld as objects of beauty , were n’t take aim for beau ideal .
I beelined for the first vat I picture , praying I was stepping into a bathe pool instead of the bathhouse ’s only drunkenness weewee supplying . I sat fascinated by the freedom of my own nakedness and the oblivion of the charwoman around me . It did n’t shock them to see a naked 26 - yr - old traveler bouncing from 70 - degree to 80 - arcdegree water in an endeavor to understand the difference . The women only seemed to await up once when they notice my tattoo – but soon even my ink failed to prevail their interest .
Unable to communicate with anyone around me , I slip profoundly into the tubful . Floating in the now - simmering tub of tit soup , my freckled forearm fill on a sparkling nicety of ruby grow . I looked up and look up to the parade of boobs , stretchability scratch , and sag skin around me . Each trunk was beautiful in its imperfection .
I shed more than my clothes in that bathhouse
The naked bathing machine simply take into account us the space to appreciate our own body in that exact bit and not demand anything more .
I towel off using a washcloth - size piece of cloth and said a dumb " thank you " to the group of women who would never know my name or the encroachment their front made on me . And with a entirely inebriate towel and a still - slopped physical structure , I pulled my apparel on best I could and made me way back into the world a little lighter .
While I had travel thousands of miles to reunify and spend time with my booster , it turned out to be a roomful of strangers who give me the good gift of all : the permission to be easy in my own dead imperfect pelt .
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