Weight change can affect your hormones , energy levels , and mental health – so it should be no surprise that dramatic weight loss or amplification can also have serious event on your relationships . A muckle of masses assume the pattern is " get in relationship , let self go , have less sex ; " and certainly , the correlation betweenhappy marriages and weight gainhas been the subject of several studies . But sometimes , the weight goes the other way – and it seems like no matter how the graduated table wind , relationships evolve in the process .
And not always in the way you ’d call back .
Changing sizes can change attraction levels
" My ex - lady friend was in dandy shape when we match . Over the course of our relationship , she gain around 50lbs . I tried to boost and inspire her to get back into form – I ’m a personal flight simulator ! – but nothing did the trick . I still loved her , but I was not pull to her any longer . It would be one matter if we were in our XXX and married , but we were 22 ! Was I just supposed to stay in this family relationship incessantly ? " –Andre , 28
" I discover my boyfriend and I had been having sexual practice a lot less frequently . When I asked him about it , he say that he had gained about 30lbs and was self - witting about my watch him raw . I had n’t even find ! I intend , I guess I knew he had gained a little weight , but I did n’t see why that should stop us from having sexual practice . " –Lana , 25
" Both my SO and I gained some weightiness and our sexuality life flatten considerably … to zero . She lose free weight first and had at least one affair . Then , I lose even more free weight and had my own affair . " –Jackson , 42
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" I attain 60lbs while pregnant with my daughter , and around 40 of that stayed put for over a year . My husband scarcely touched me , but since I did not feel very sexy at that weight , I was kind of OK with that . " –Lydia , 33
Losing weight can be a turnoff, too
" I was dating a heavy girl who I was really into . She was sexy , and we had a great time together . Then , she got weight - loss OR . She could no longer drink , and she had to use up teeny - petite meals . misplace exercising weight seemed to make her happy , but our relationship dissolved because we could n’t go out and have playfulness together anymore . " –Leo , 34
" I lost 60lbs in college ( I ’m 5'5 " ) . I had been overcharge up with a guy off and on for about 18 months , and he turn back returning my texts . When I confronted him about it via text , he said sorry but he was only really into BBW ( big beautiful women ) . Since I had lose weight , he was way less draw to me . I had to Google BBW ! I did n’t even know I had been one . " –Alisha , 24
" I was activated when my swain devote to weight loss , but I did n’t do it he would be at the gymnasium every unmarried day . He works out after piece of work , so forget doing anything together on a weeknight . Even when we do go out for dinner party or drinks now , I can finger him calculate the kilogram calorie in every bite I rust . " –Samantha , 29
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Motivations for supporting weight loss aren’t always health-related
" My wife was so not on board with my new fitness regimen at first . Then she realized it meant drinking beer with the guys a mountain less and staying home eating salad with her more often . Now , she is really happy I ’m doing it . " –Blake , 32
" We had sex and she liked the fact that I did not have a openhanded gut anymore when we did it . But it did not make her want to have more sex activity with me like I hoped it would . I call back she was most excited about the fact that I looked well place upright next to her in photo . " –Owen , 39
And sometimes, it’s not about the weight at all
" I used to cogitate my husband did n’t want to sleep with me because I was 40lbs overweight . I have in Supreme Headquarters Allied Powers Europe , and we still are n’t doing it . Now I am wondering whether he is just not pull to me , or if he is make an affair . " –Lydia , 33
