Sex Tips for Boring Peoplewill take your sex life from vanilla to passionateness fruit . Or at least from vanilla to vanilla bean . Find more aphrodisiacal advice righthere .
A girl asked me to take her virginity. What should I do?
First things first … do you like her ? No , but I mean do you REALLY like her ? If you " bang " a virgin , you ’re an son of a bitch . That ’s what you want to remember . Someone ’s first meter really should be something special . There ’s no need to elude that cliche . You ’re setting the tone for the next yr of their intimate sprightliness and will be the criterion to which they hold succeeding assemblage , until the twenty-four hour period they realize you were n’t really all THAT great .
" Are you draw in to her beyond the fact that she is offer herself up to you ? " asksDr . Kat Van Kirk , a licensed marriage and sex therapist , and the resident sex expert atAdam and Eve . " I do n’t recommend doing it just to do it . That could elaborate thing . You need to figure out how she feel about you . Are there string or other expectations ? And you need to fancy out how you palpate about her . "
If you care about this person and can handle the emotional aftermath , then definitely do it . But if you ’re just looking to score that lever bedpost mountain pass , better to find someone else and office - maneuver .
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What’s the best way to handle it when a guy can’t get it up?
hollo unneeded aid to it is NOT the result to that question . He 100 % feels worse about it than you do . You ’re probably think , " Meh , OK . Guess I ’m not having sex tonight . " He ’s thinking , " I like I was deadened . " Be sensitive ! This is the male equivalent of you fart while he ’s going down on you .
" Move on to other behaviors , " says Dr. Kat . " Many guy know this will happen occasionally and that it is n’t a adult tidy sum , so you need to reinforce that and not stigmatize the issue . Keep the play going . Maybe he jazz that a different position or oral might help . Ask him if he want to stay on and what might serve . Some guys may want to take a short time out and revisit it in a few minutes . See if he can carry on being forcible in between even if it ’s just kissing , fondling , massage , or nestle . It will help you both stay engaged , with no outlook – but [ also ] help you to not find like you ’re starting from square one . "
What is a normal amount of ejaculation?
I ’m hesitant to use the world " normal " when it come to anything sexual , since everyone is different . But since you asked , an average volume of seed is 2 - 5ml , says Dr. Darius Paduch , an associate prof of urology and generative music at Weill Cornell Medical College .
That said , if you are producing more or less , there ’s nothing to be alarmed about . Just bring extra ( or few ! ) paper towels .
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