Dating someone who is an identical twin is kind of like hold out out with a famous person : not many have done it , yet most sense queerly comfortable enquire you invasive question about it . But as the song go , give the hoi polloi what they want . As someone who has been in a relationship with an selfsame similitude for several years , here are the question I ’m involve most … and their answer .
Can you tell them apart?
The answer , plain , is yes . You ca n’t be in a relationship with someone if you are n’t sure who they are . Once in a while , I may have to do a double take – especially when both their backs are to me . And with only 3.5 of every 1,000 babies born with an superposable counterpart , the double - vision phenomenon does take a little getting used to . But in general , my swain and his counterpart have middling different affectedness , voices , and smells ( as in soap , not BO , which apparently , identical twins actually do have in uncouth ) .
Are you attracted to the other one?
If you find your SO physically attractive , you ’ll in all probability receive his doppelgänger reasonably precious too , right ? It only makes sentience , given the fact they have the same face .
But when it come to attraction , personality diddle a more authoritative purpose than looks – peculiarly when appearances are so similar . That ’s not to say that I have n’t been curious about what it would be like to kiss his Twin Falls – less as a fantasy , more in a scientific experimentation kind of way . Which leads us to …
Is it cool to hook up with the other one?
Of course it ’s not OK – why do multitude ask this ? !
If you guys break up, is it OK to date the other one?
Dating an monovular twin is n’t an insurance policy insurance policy . If you fall back one , the other one ca n’t be your musical accompaniment . Who want those inevitably awkward family gatherings , anyway ?
Do they have the same taste in everything?
Just because indistinguishable twins have the same mouth does n’t mean they have the same taste . In my fellow and his similitude ’s showcase , there is considerable convergence in choose books , solid food , music , wearing apparel and films ; yet none whatsoever in go steady . In fact , my fellow ’s twinned brother has a penchant for marvelous , long-legged gals ( in other words , not me ) who look unnervingly like him . His girlfriend could kick the bucket as their identical triplet .
Do you and the other one get along?
I was really nervous the first time I met my boyfriend ’s identical twin . I recognize him at the airport and ran up to him to give him a bounteous hug . turn out that just because he was directly familiar to me , the feeling was n’t reciprocal . And what is more , I forgot that we in reality did n’t know each other at all , which was probably why fear and scare filled his face as this crazy person wholly embraced him .
I finally got over this extreme pity … and he eventually contain thinking I was nuts . The two of us now officially get along .
Seriously though, isn’t it weird?
Yeah , at first it ’s decidedly bizarre to consider there ’s someone out there in the macrocosm who looks precisely like the person you eff . At the beginning of our kinship , many of our dates would turn into unrehearsed “ twinformation ” sessions , in which I would barrage him with scholarly matching - relate questions ( " Do you guys interpret each other ’s mind ? Can you feel his pain ? Have you ever date an monovular exercise set of twin ? Is he fresh than you ? Did you sleep side by side or nonsensicality bed in the womb ? Was there a fight to get out first ? " )
Eventually though , the luster begin to fade like all new and shiny things . What was once a topic of insatiate fascination has melted into normalcy .
Still , there is that rare function when I experience twin magic . I had the precise same conversation one meter with both of them , about 10 min apart . In thoseGroundhog Daymoments , where there is a clear glitch in the intercellular substance , my heart begins to quiver . I think to myself that dating an selfsame twin – while not as cool as being an identical Twin Falls – is still pretty unique .
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