San Francisco is , without head , the No . 1 spot for crick in America . Despite our city ’s smaller size , this place is filled with BDSM stores , dungeons , clubs – evena BDSM java shop . Here in The City by the Bay , you could rule a full spectrum of BDSM options to explore all 50 shade of your gender : from serious Master / striver gatherings to public events aimed at vanilla duo test the waters .

Bondage-A-Go Goat Cat Club

WednesdaysSoMaEvery Wednesday Nox , local BDSM celeb Stefanos Steward hosts this long - operate kink Nox . Bondage - A - Go Go is a fetish theme dance company . Dress in all black or more , ahem , formal attire – guests are encouraged to avoid street dress . Unlike many other surface area BDSM events , you must be over 21 , so bring your ID . This is a good one for common people who are starting out in the scene – there are two prevention , a dance flooring , and a swordplay - space that ’s monitored by some hoi polloi who know what they ’re up to : there ’s no nudeness or explicitly intimate activity allowed ( the event take place in a bar , after all ) .

“Bent,” “Spank,” “Mystique,” and moreat SF Citadel

All the timeUnion SquareThe SF Citadel is arguably the best dungeon in San Francisco and hosts a number of parties with name like Transmission , Master ’s Den , and Taboo , each supply to a specific fetish . BDSM practitioners oft play here on the weekend . If you ’re looking for your first spanking or have been fantasy about meeting a domme , this should be your first stoppage . If you ’re new , you ’re encouraged to catch and ascertain – this space is all about secure , reasonable , and consensual play . Most parties are under 30 dollar .

Twist Private Partyat Twist SF

Fri and SaturdaysEmail to find outThis place has a nightclub specify with a dance trading floor … but there are also fun areas , massage tabular array , and shower ( towels include , natch ) . If you ’re a undivided fellow , seize a friend – the party does n’t take single guy rope . You have to netmail for an invitation , but if you ’re more into group sex than more hard-core kink , this is going to be your spot .

The Leathermen’s Discussion Groupat Mr. S Studio

MonthlySoMaLDG is a really big hatful in San Francisco and has won legion awards . Once a calendar month this group meet to discuss a leather / juju / BDSM skill or topic relevant to nappy guys . It is mostly for gay men but anyone is welcome . It is consider one of the best places to meet and socialise with fellow male kinksters , and some 100 mass show up each time – plus , it ’s barren .

Queer Sphere Picnicat Mosswood Park

AprilOakland , CAQueer Sphere is a club for mass of all genders who identify as kinky and queer . They have a long ton of events around the Bay Area include glad time of day , parties , and family . This is a very societal chemical group and the cinch is a skilful way to suffer Modern citizenry and have some outdoor playfulness … plus , it ’s one of the few kinky outcome where you ’re likely to both toy frisbee and get tied to a tree .

Northwest Leather Celebrationat San Jose DoubleTree Hotel

MaySilicon ValleyThousands of people gather for this well - attended , three - day league in Silicon Valley . The conference is a mix of socializing , hands - on workshops , and wreak gatherings . If you ’re interested in meeting existent Masters and submissives , this is the position : you ’ll find everyone from sadist and masochist to tops and bottoms … straight and queer kinksters of all stripes . The high spot of the conference is the annual Master / hard worker competition on Saturday night . Tickets’ll set you back between $ 80 - 140 .

Folsom Street Fair

SeptemberSoMaIf you go to one kinky effect in San Francisco , go to this . The annual BDSM and leather subculture fairish is beyond legendary – and quite eye - initiative . If you have never watch a man spanked in broad daytime , or a adult female suspend by hooks , here ’s your chance . Some 400,000 people converge on 13 city blocks around historic Folsom St for this public event which cap off " Leather Pride Week . " There are numerous demonstration aimed at demystifying BDSM , and many folks show up in full leather or latex – though it ’s fine to wear out jean .

Society of Janus Members Partyat Local Dungeon

NovemberDowntown San FranciscoThe Society of Janus is one of the go - to organisation for education and backing around BDSM and the second Old in the US . Each year they make a secret party called the Society Of Janus Member Appreciation Party where people socialise and bet ; activities admit flog , suspension , and bondage . In edict to attend , you have to be a SOJ member , but concord to the organisation , " a lot of people join just for the party . " And for only $ 40 , it ’s well deserving it – some 300 - 400 people usually attend , and this inclusive group is a good option for those looking to attend their first party . Fetish or conventional attire required .

Carnal Carnivalat Center for Sex and Culture

DecemberSoMaThis one is for the ladies . host by the Exiles , a BDSM educational arrangement , this is a safe space for women with a personal interestingness in BDSM , so you have to identify as distaff to attend to . This outer space is packed with wrick , music , snacks , and debauchery : fundamentally , it ’s slews of fun . Activities include period of play piercing , encroachment and violet wand play , and " vibrator race . " ticket are under $ 25 .

New Bohemia NYEat The Armory

New Year ’s EveMission DistrictThis annual New Year ’s Eve political party at The Armory is off the infernal hook . As you ’re probably already aware if you live here , the landmark San Francisco Armory was gain in 2006 by the grownup entertainment product company Kink.com , which has turn it into a set for their porn videos , film , and parties . Even among The Armory ’s dramatic regular parties , New Bohemia stands out for its over - the - top drunken revelry and theatrics . skip over the downstairs party ( which is open to the populace ) , and get tickets to the VIP party at the Upper Floor , a private , exclusive dungeon locate in a space that ’s usually closed off – and be prepared to dress to the nines . On the Upper Floor , you ’ll see slaves wearing leash on leashes abiding to strict BDSM protocols , others in their o.k. stays and fetish wear , Kink.com stave , and ample technical school - bros . Downstairs : curious vanilla folks and plenty of voyeur . ticket : $ 75 - 175 ; VIP lead off at $ 150 for The Upper Floor – and up to $ 5,000 for private room rentals .

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kinky events in San Francisco

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