When I was about to leave for college , my crony and dad looked at me with the same expression of unwavering enviousness before saying in unison : these will be the good four yr of your aliveness .
It ’s now been a decade since I graduate . And while I know what my family meant when they said what they did , in accuracy , college was more of a fantasy land than a bill . I was rather - sorta on my own , but still with the crutch of parental keep . As a resultant role , everything that encounter during that time is heighten by this false sense of reality .
This admit dating . A college campus full of people in the precise same demographic as you with no curfew in sight equates for most of us to having our first serious relationship around this time . And although this first - dearest stuff and nonsense is certainly unbelievable , date in college is also total bullshit . It just does n’t bet as real geological dating . Here ’s why .
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It’s like being on MTV’sReal World
It ’s actually worse . The seven unknown find fault to live in a house have given way to thou of strangers beak to live in adjoining poky cells ( aka college dormitory rooms ) . And although having your life-time tap is optional , there ’s doubtlessly footage somewhere of something insane happening .
College is a bubble ; and that house of cards is full of attractive multitude of the same age , all last figuratively and literally on top of each other . Oh , and salute hard . Think about it . Would you ever advance a friend to go onReal Worldwhile still in a family relationship ? Or did an existing relationship ever last with a bunch of Collins ( Real World : Hawaii ) and Trishelles ( veridical World : Las Vegas ) running around ? precisely .
Everyone is a manwhore or slut, even when they’re not
TheWedding Crashersline " Let ’s get skip up and make some bad decisions ! " is the unspoken collegiate mantra . It ’s a bona fidebreeding groundfor defective decisions . But in college , they do n’t count as bad . They ’re just decision ! And this is the fourth dimension you ’re supposed to make them , so in a way , cursory hookups are n’t really judged the same mode as they can be in maturity .
Just take over the fact that along with your social security department telephone number , another thing you ’ll have down moth-eaten during your Erolia minutilla in higher learning is how to attract of the most discreet walk of life of disgrace possible .
… So it’s very easy to justify cheating
I stand for , it ’s not . But it is . And it ’s also not . Because , well , you drink A LOT . It will never happen again . And did n’t he / she hook up with that guy at the band company last week anyway ? Plus , it ’s not like you had sex . Well , you did , but you used a condom . So does that even really enumerate as cheating ? Who cares , [ insert someone you hooked up with ] lives on the other side of campus , he / she will never be at the same dining hall as you . Right ? Whatever , you tope a lot .
Get the estimation ?
Your career doesn’t play a factor
No matter how many Adderall - induced all - nighters you spend bone for final in the library , it ’s still not a task . And until the stress of fighting with your substantial other about how much clip he / she pass at the part , set up your career first , or about how your boss is a toxic swashbuckler – all of which contribute to a significant slack in your your sexuality drive – you ’re not really date .
Your parents don’t play a factor
You still have a lot to learn about love
Was I in love in college ? Yep . Was it real ? I like to think so . And yes , mass often wed their college sweetheart , yada yada . But – spoiler alert ! – you change a flock from 18 to 25 ; and in my opinion , even more from 25 to 30 . Puppy erotic love isextremelystrong , because more than likely they are spirit you ’ve never felt before . Still , it ’s deceiving ; the full term puppy is used to distinguish it for a reason .
The truth is , while you may find invincible , entitled , and even believe you ’re an real adult during college , you still have a lot to learn about yourself – and that include have sex what it means to really love and be loved by someone else .
You don’t go on actual dates
A typical " particular date " in college is done in packs , and tend to center around the following path : pregaming at someone ’s house , going to a party , hit the bars , tardily - nighting at someone ’s house , and hooking up .
If there is dinner affect , it likely takes property around 3 am . And is probably pizza pie ( or my go - to romantic meal at the time , Gumby ’s Pokey Stix with extra cattle farm dipping sauce ) . veridical talk : I think the only formal escort I locomote on with boyfriends were my actual sorority formals , in which case the only affair that really change was the apparel code .
You’re pretty intoxicated for most of the relationship
Are you currently in college ? You ’re in all probability a little intoxicated right now . hold it .
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